Take a few minutes to count the number of family and friends you know are separated or divorced. The total? Now think of how many of those couples might have benefited from having a more experienced married couple to learn from? When couples wait until they find themselves in deep crisis before they decide to reach out for help, marriage restoration is difficult.
Since 2006, we’ve discovered that over 90% of mentee couples that remain in our mentoring process for 6 months or more report their marriages as being restored and enriched. That’s one couple meeting with another couple at least twice monthly, working through an intentional process, empowered by the Holy Spirit, giving glory to God while producing these types of results.
Marriages in crises didn't get there over night. Likewise, implementing changes that can restore a marriage takes time. We find the typical time frame for helping a couple in crises is between six and twelve months. While our process is intentional and methodical, we also recognize the fact that every marriage is unique with it’s own history and challenges. For example, if forgiveness has become a painful issue for the mentee couple, the mentors might focus on this area for multiple weeks. For others, it might be conflict resolution or finances. Helping the mentee couple to fully apprehend God’s truth around these and other topics found in the “Devoted” workbook is the goal for the mentors. With this perspective in mind, here is a typical guideline for the restore process: